You Drive Like a Girl

I was blessed to have been raised surrounded by strong men. I am grateful to be treated as brutally and equally as I have in my friendships and in the automotive community. But most of all, I’m thankful that my attitude and grit have allowed me to see the pink in every backhanded and patronizing comment and slather it with my own paintbrush into a blood red response until the only pink left is the faded edges of my wake.

Attitude is Half the Battle

Let me start this off with a disclaimer that my experience is probably pretty different than most girls. I got into racing and automotives at a young age and I grew up surrounded by superfluous amounts of testosterone, so my responses and perspectives are rather skewed. Having said that, there are things that I think most all females in automotives will experience, and how she responds will determine how difficult her automotive career is. Attitude will either get you a long way or cut you down where you stand.

Look, the honest truth is that most people who are condescending or patronizing aren’t doing it to be assholes, and the more time you spend pissed off is less time you’ll spend changing minds and meeting cool people. More often than not, they’re either trying to impress you or they genuinely think they know better, which in itself can be frustrating, but cooler heads will always prevail. Often, responding honestly and politely will usually do the trick. Even when you get a persistent [Samuel L. Jackson expletive] telling you you’re wrong or trying to spew their advice on you and your build, humor goes a long way.

What it ultimately boils down to is having the evidence to prove you’re up to par. Your skill will speak volumes over whatever rebuttal or come-back you can think of, and being a jerk is only going to hurt fragile egos. If you’re getting into automotives, the ugly truth is that you will constantly be evaluated and tested. People will always be swinging at you, and I’ve found the most effective form of navigating the punches is to grab their hands and turn it into a dance party. There will be plenty of things to be mad about, but being treated like a female isn’t one of them.

The Issue of Horn Dogs

It’s unavoidable. People will often take the fact that you are/present as a woman as an indication that you are desperate for the sexin’. To the gentlemen who may be reading this, let me assure you, we are most definitely not. Are there women who thrive off of sexual attention? Absolutely. Will some women use their bodies to get ahead? Sure. Are these women hurting the chances of women in automotives? No, but it is debatable as to whether or not companies are indirectly forcing women into these rolls for better “opportunities”.

Let me give you an example: when I first started looking for sponsors, being a girl definitely helped, I’m not going to lie. However, some companies made it very obvious what they wanted from their sponsored women. One company I won’t name offered me a parts sponsorship but only after I submitted a photo to them of me in their women’s merchandise… they only made underwear and crop-tops for women. Another company suggested I keep my relationship status as “single” so as to encourage people to follow and comment and thus up the algorithm on my posts. Sex sells, it’s nothing new, so how do you keep your integrity and not have people constantly try to pat your head in pity?

Who you are is more important than what you are

There are going to be attractive men and women in every career, and beginners and experts in every field, but the people who make it into something successful are the people who aren’t assholes. Especially in automotives, you’re going to need a lot of help – either informationally, financially, or otherwise – and no matter how pretty you are or how much you do or don’t know, people don’t like to work with dicks. This doesn’t mean you should go out of your way to make everyone love you, because believe me, it’ll be easy to tell pretty quickly if you’re a dick.

I could go on and on about the finer details or specific situations that women in male-dominated sports may encounter, but it’s really not that hard. Be open to questions, be honest about what you know or don’t know, and stay true to what you want out of your ventures. Guy or girl eventually won’t matter because it’s so superficial. When people don’t know you, they can only react to what they see, and they’ll see a girl. No matter how they react to that, give them a chance to see that you have more to say, more to offer, and more to challenge them with than something you cannot control. Ultimately, being defensive or overly aggressive with your interactions will only turn people away, and ignorance needs a gentle hand. So be humble, be firm, be confident. If you’re in this for the right reasons and keep a good head about you, just maybe you’ll be seen as a driver first and a girl second.

138 Replies to “You Drive Like a Girl”

  1. Pingback: stromectol 3mg
  2. Pingback: confeitofilm
  3. Pingback: cialis otc walmart
  4. Pingback: ivermectin nz
  5. Pingback: JXNhGmmt
  6. Pingback: do-posle-psihologa
  7. Pingback: ivermectin trials
  8. Pingback: cialis price
  9. Pingback: stromectol amazon
  10. Pingback: ivermectin tablets
  11. Pingback: cialis tabs
  12. Pingback: ivermectin 12 mg
  13. Pingback: viagra 4 pack
  14. Pingback: ivermectin ken
  15. Pingback: ivermectin tablets
  16. Pingback: minocycline 100mg
  17. Pingback: cheap cialis india
  18. Pingback: cost of ivermectin
  19. Pingback: order ivermectin
  20. Pingback: ivermectin 50ml
  21. Pingback: ivermectin brand
  22. Pingback: cost of ivermectin
  23. Pingback: tadalafil cialis
  24. Pingback: cialis dosis
  25. Pingback: real money casinos
  26. Pingback: ivermectin dosing
  27. Pingback: cialis coupon
  28. Pingback: ivermectin cena
  29. Pingback: viagra erfinder
  30. Pingback: buy molnupiravir
  31. Pingback: cialis vs viagra
  32. Pingback: tadalafil cvs
  33. Pingback: cialis online
  34. Pingback: research tadalafil
  35. Pingback: tadalafil daily
  36. Pingback: ivermectin 6mg
  37. Pingback: order viagra plus
  38. Pingback: ivermectin 24 mg
  39. Pingback: stromectol covid
  40. Pingback: cheapest tadalafil
  41. Pingback: liquid tadalafil
  42. Pingback: ivermectin uk
  43. Pingback: ivermectin generic
  44. Pingback: flccc ivermectin
  45. Pingback: cost of ivermectin
  46. Pingback: Anonymous
  47. Pingback: Anonymous
  48. Pingback: Anonymous
  49. Pingback: ivermectin near me
  50. Pingback: daily cialis cost
  51. Pingback: pink viagra pills
  52. Pingback: hims cialis
  53. Love this article. And can totally see it. Even in Aircraft Maintenance ever girl I work with carries a chip on their shoulder out to prove their reliability every time, myself included. I havent seen it much yet myself with motorcycles but im also reserved and havent been out much in that community.

Leave a Reply